Tuesday, June 19, 2012
While its never easy to tell what in Reality TV is real and what is scripted, we can all agree that last nights premiere of Love & Hip Hop ATL left us all in a state of "Oh Hellz Naw!" For those of you that missed it we got our first intro to the relationship of Stevie J and his longtime girlfriend and "Baby Momma", Mimi. According to her clips Stevie J is constantly creeping and obviously getting caught. Last night, we found out that he is currently creeping with Joseline, although both parties denied a kiss witnessed by another Cast Member. I think it was pretty clear from Joseline's clips that she has bedded Mr. J. The part that was so astonishing was that even after having such a bombshell dropped on her Mimi was still trying to hold on to Stevie, while he basically said forget her and their daughter. This pointed out a key issue that many women deal with in society. While many watched that episode and proclaimed "what they would have done". Many of us know someone, either are or have been in a similar situations. But why? There are lots of reasons but here are few.
#1: Biggest Myth: All Men Cheat
Despite popular belief all men don't cheat! There are men out there that actually value their bodies and what they have to offer.
#2: For the Children
Many women stay with cheating men for the sake of their children. Not wanting to break up the family or raise their child alone. When the truth is that a cheating man will only drive you nuts! You can't trust him so you go crazy trying to catch him which only distracts you from what is really important...the children. Let it go!
#3: Afraid to be Alone
Many women fear not being in a relationship; failing to realize that a relationship with yourself is the most valuable thing you can have before having one with anyone else.
#4: I can change him
Wrong! No one changes unless they want to and continuing to be someone's fool only makes a fool out of you, why? Because they'll do it again!
#5: What if someone else gets him
Well then good...Now he's her problem.
As Women and Mothers we must realize that just because a man gives you a child it doesn't mean you have to put up with crap. No one should treat you like crap because they feel indispensable or needed because of a child. That's Mental Abuse! Better to be a Single Mother than a Bad Mother by giving your children (especially daughters) the impression that love is abusive!